To err is human! We all make mistakes in life and later regret – “I wish I had better guidance, things would have been different” or “I wish I was more matured” or I could have done some more interesting things if only I was young” so on and on. Isn’t it? So, what mistakes can you avoid at 30 to make your life better at 50?
Sure, we learn from our mistakes and that’s how we grow in life. But, don’t you think this process will become a little easier if you learn from mistakes that others did and seek lessons from other people’s lives?
People on different online forums like Quora were asked about things they wished they had done in their younger years, that would have made their life better at 50.
Here are incredible answers that will help you in self-assessment, elevate your thinking, and navigate challenging situations wisely. So if you have hit 30, then you have got some big tasks to finish.
1. Smoke away your worries, not your lungs.
If you don’t like smoking then kudos to you! But, if you have started smoking, then pause. Smoking not only burns your pocket, but makes you smell gross! Try to quit before it takes a toll on your health and ruins your hard earned money.
“If you could see me now, I’m down on my poor, crackling knees begging you to at least consider stopping smoking,” writes Quora user Cyndi Perlman Fink.
Do you want to die bed ridden with deadly diseases, fighting each day, popping meds instead of delicious food?
If not, then stop smoking
2. Maintain peaceful and harmonious relationships with parents and siblings.
Your generation is quite different from that of your parents and chances are high that your perspective of life has changed a lot. You and your parents may not be on the same page in regards to job, relationships, career and many other things. You may have heated arguments on several occasions. You have to practise getting along with people you don’t agree with on many issues.
“I come from a family which is very argumentative. If you didn’t understand the situation you might at times think we hate each other. But it isn’t like that at all. Rather, we are free to speak our minds because the family ties are so strong.” writes Quora user Robert Walker.
3. Eat healthy.
You can eat crap and keep making as much money as you want, but your money can’t buy you good health.
“Give up on fast food right now at age 30.” writes Quora user Sireesha Chilakamarri.
Add loads of vegetables, fruits, to your diet and well-balance it with lean meats, nuts, fiber with limited starches, sugars, and salt as suggested by another Quora user Salwa Halabia.
Drink more water than alcohol and sugary drinks. Increase your calcium intake to keep your bones strong at 50.
4. Stop going out in the sun without sunblock.
If you want young, glowing skin even at your old age, then always use sunscreen before stepping out of your home.Use right moisturizers, cleansers, and pay for the right face treatment now. So, you don’t have to go for Botox and other expensive facial treatments in your 40s and 50s.
“I was stupid. I didn’t listen. Do you want wrinkles and thin skin from sun damage like I have and do you want bruises from just lightly touching the side of a box and having your skin peel off? Go ahead, enjoy lying in the sun without sunblock,” writes Quora user Cyndi Perlman Fink.
There are an array of factors that influence our health including relationships. According to a study on personality, relationships and health – our social relationships (e.g our spouses, our family) can influence our health.
Another study that investigated the impact of social isolation on health found that people who are socially isolated have the same risk of inflammation as those who are physically inactive.
The kind of relationships (with family members and others) we make right from our early years of life have a profound impact on how we view the world, our psychology and personality.
While healthy relationships facilitate self-expansion, unhealthy relationships might make you a worse person.
The psychology test in this post will help you figure out how your relationships have shaped your personality.
You have to carefully see the given picture comprising of three families each having- a mother, a father and a child. And, then identify – which one out of three is not a family?
The results fall into three categories even though there is only one answer. Your answer reveals your thought process and personality.
Then, you are someone who is not family-oriented and mostly prioritize friends and colleagues. The reason you have picked this family is probably you think that the father in the picture is careless about the child and the mother.
Or you may think that the mother keeps the child away from the father who seems irresponsible. Although you have picked this as a fake family, it is still a real family where the mother is found to hold the child and protect her from an uncaring father.
Your answer hints that you may have grown up without a strong father figure. Your interpretation also reveals that you are a caring person. You want to improve other people’s lives and enjoy that sense of happiness. You may not know what a real family is, but your motherly instincts drive you to protect others from the kind of pain you have suffered in your life.
If your answer is #2
Then you are a family-oriented person and value loved ones more than anything in this world. You may have found this family as fake because the elders are too focused on themselves. Both the mother and father are ignoring the child and not even holding each other’s hands.
Your interpretation indicates that you believe family should be an important and first priority. Those who put their family needs first can build stable and long-lasting relationships. You come across as a person who always wants loved ones to be happy. Hence, you put the effort into establishing trust and sustaining commitment.
If your answer is #3
Then you may have a traumatic past or been into a dysfunctional family. Because family 3 is a happy and loving family. The picture depicts caring and loving parents as well as good bonding with the child. It’s hard to believe this family is fake!
Your opinion hints at negative thinking and psychological illness and a lack of trust. Such perception may have resulted from bad parenting and poor relationships right from a young age. You may have witnessed abuse, violence, or parental separation in childhood, resulting in an improper understanding of what a healthy family is.
Did you rightly guess?